When it comes to drugs and alcohol, the parent/child
discussion is not one to be taken lightly. Rather, the “talk” should serve as
an opportunity to create and support ongoing dialogue between both parties to
ensure enhanced communication, trust and respect. In this entry, we will
discuss some tips and tricks to utilize when confronting the topic.
Instructions
1 – Clarity is key. Make certain that your child understands
the importance of the discussion at hand, and that they, under no circumstance,
are permitted to use drugs or alcohol. Avoid leaving any room for
misinterpretation. Teenagers are crafty devils…
2 – Revisit the discussion regularly. Talk about the dangers
associated with alcohol and drug abuse
at the dinner table, during family outings, and whenever else the opportunity
presents itself. Avoid forcing the topic, with an emphasis on casual
conversation. Nobody likes to be bombarded with unwarranted lecture.
3 – Listen! Ask questions, and encourage the same. Paraphrase
the ideas that your teen conveys to you, and follow up on topics that may pose
more serious issues. The more available you make yourself, the more comfortable
your child will be discussing these topics in an honest and proactive manner.
4 – Be honest! Many parents who have dabbled with drugs and
alcohol in the past attempt to hide their indiscretions. In doing so, they risk
diminished credibility in the eyes of their children if and when the truth
comes out.
5 – Do NOT react to your child with anger or hostility. If
your teen provides information that challenges or upsets you, it’s in your best
interest to keep calm. Yelling or punishment will only serve to hinder further
discussion. Use the opportunity instead to connect with your teen in a positive
and supportive manner.